This year is killing me! As a fantasy/sci-fi fan, I see death more as a transformation than the Death of nightmares, its bony fingers poking at you...
But I digress. I have been contemplating change for months. Change was stalking me and I pretended it couldn't touch me. It stared me in the face and I laughed at it.
“You
can’t touch me, fool!” (Then I laughed like a villain in an old Japanese epic film because I am a nerd.)
I
saw it coming and I felt its cold claws grab at my ankles. I fought
it, and I should know better. Change is inevitable.
One
must accept change, embrace it, become one with it, and move on.
Change happens for a reason – often nature’s way to balance
itself out.
Sometimes
it is hard to get to that realization without speaking platitudes to
oneself. Today I spent the whole day doing this and, dear lord is
that tiresome! So, as therapy, I offer you a load of platitudes which
you should feel free to cut and paste and use during your next crises
as need be...
When
the Universe closes a path in your journey, as much as it’ll hurt to
take the reins and shut off the autopilot, all it means is that the
road is closed. It doesn’t mean your journey is over. Simply
traveling on another plane can bring untold joy to our lives, but we
must stop bellyaching about changing lanes in order to notice. And if
you should lose a passenger or two, then live with it because even
this does not mean death.
Everything
in life is temporary, all things shall pass.
Yeah, existential angst just ain't funny... it's a bitter little pill!
Sometimes
things don’t work out the way you thought they might.
You
can fight it or you can mourn it. That’s your choice, but it is
also futile. Acknowledge that the moment has ended, be thankful for
having had the experience, and then remember what it brought to your
life and what it taught you.
Let
the rest of it go. It’s the only way you’ll know peace.
Everything
in life is temporary. You cannot force anything or anyone to remain.
Don’t
resist change. It’s like fighting an invisible army – it’ll be
exhausting and you can never win.
Sometimes
part of your journey comes with a mate; some parts of your journey
are for you alone. Should you lose a partner in the race and not know
why, let it go too. If there was an important lesson there, you would
have gotten it. Perhaps getting nothing back is the very lesson
in it—because then you’d gotten back exactly what it was worth.
In
the whirlwind of change, sometimes it is also necessary to forgive.
Forgive when no apology is coming or offered, simply accept what is
and forgive. Don't forget the lesson, but forgive any offense (if one
was given).
Forgive
because bitterness is a rusting agent for your soul. Forgive
because it will bring you peace. Forgive because it is the only way
to move forward happily.
Most
importantly, take ownership of whatever may have been your fault and
forgive yourself. The same principles apply for you as they do for
others, but it is far more important because you have to live with
yourself to the end.
If
you invested in it more than you thought you had to give, know that
broken hearts mend and no one in the history of the world has ever
died of disillusionment. Write a bad poem and get the hell over it!
If
all else fails, I hear whiskey is a cure-all. Have a cry, have a
drink, promise to not be such a sap next time, move on. And if
nothing else, you would have had a glass of whiskey.
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